Sunday, January 1, 2017

Were any of you stereotypically nerdy/geeky/awkward before getting into bodybuilding? Anyone still socially awkward?

With the way that they're portrayed, bodybuilding and nerdiness seem antithetical, but can you have been both in your life?

By nerdy/geeky, I mean having the stereotypical mannerisms, personalities, and looks, NOT just being obsessed with a TV show, great grades, or having a degree in computer science. You dressed badly, didn't care about your looks, were skinny or fat, socially awkward, and maybe looked down at big buff guys/fitchicks, thinking they were less intelligent. You might have been like the guys posted on /r/justneckbeardthings. You might have loved anime and played games like World of Warcraft, Magic the Gathering etc. You were unattractive, unpopular, and hung out with similar people. Partying? That's for "normies"! For the "bros/Chads"!

My boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, and I are such. I have no official diagnosis but strongly have shown all the symptoms of Asperger's throughout my life and have been treated as such, leading to a lifetime of depression and being the least athletic kid in high school PE class. I am now one of the strongest women in every gym. Boyfriend is one of the bigger guys you'll see in the gym and the first impression people have of him is "meathead" or "Viking". But before we got gainz, we were well described by the above characteristics and our social circles were such to a heavier extent. University in a town full of socially graceful hotties happened, prompting us to explore real life more (partying, traveling) and to build fitter bodies in order to have the best experiences doing so. This led us both to become somewhat "cool" enough to hang out with the mutual friends in which we met through.

Unfortunately, there's still some distance between us and the average person you'll find in a bar, club, and gym. I'm no longer nerdy in any way but am still awkward although much more social than before and am still striving to improve. My SO and I still aren't the same as most "fit" people especially bodybuilders, making it hard to find anyone to share our passion with. I'm hardly in touch with anyone before college, but he still is and his friends (self-described "gamers") are so stereotypically nerdy that they're afraid to go to social events, get laid, and even travel abroad. It's fucking lonely, being "caught between two cultures". Completely different lifestyle from the nerds but too awkward for the "normies" and the bodybuilders.

I have found some other people who are into fitness that were former nerds or are still nerds, but it's mostly cycling, running, or Crossfit. Any bodybuilders/aspiring bodybuilders awkward like a typical nerd? How are you finding others who are like you? Or are any of you surrounded by typical nerds who don't understand your lifestyle due to your job, culture, college major, family, etc?

TL;DR: Anyone used to be super nerdy/awkward before making gains? Boyfriend and I used to be and now it's hard to fit in with other aspiring bodybuilders.

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